I'm gonna rant a little here. The topic of this rant is my sister, or rather, the fact that she has two kids and absolutely no one to watch them.
Some background is my sister is a really passive person. Not only is she passive, but she's stubborn in her passiveness. This results in her basically just letting others do what she wants, so long as she herself doesn't have to do much. So she got a boyfriend a few years back. It took all of a few months before we realized he was basically a man-child, likely to never change, and just in general no good for her.
But, she's a passive moron, and stayed with him for a whopping 5ish years before finally breaking it off. Of course, during this time she had not one, but two unexpected kids. Her boyfriend already had one of his own, so now he has three and she has two.
Now, she's always had issues finding people to watch her kids, but when she was with him he was always around (because he's in and out of jobs), and usually pretty willing to watch them. Now not so much. He's willing, but usually only when its convenient for him. Of course, he has no license either, so him watching them at night doesn't happen. To make things more hilarious, he's not paying child support, and she's still paying his phone bill. Of course, she doesn't want to do anything against him in either of those cases, because she's a passive moron and thinks it will piss him off and he'll refuse to watch his own kids.
The reason I mention him is one would think the father or mother would be the go to people to watch their own children. If they're not working, it should be them 100% of the time. But no, instead my sister blames everyone else. Refuses to try and do any legal action against him, or for us to just threaten him, when he is refusing so much. Instead she's constantly looking for other people to watch her kids. Other people usually being me or the father's mother.
Now, I don't mind watching my 1 year old nephew and 3 year old niece once in a while, but it's at least once a week, and usually it results in my day going -> wake up -> work for 8 hours -> get home and eat -> have half an hour to do something -> watch her kids -> come back and have about 2 hours before I need to sleep.
When I was unemployed I didn't really give a Fark, but it's rather annoying to do it now.
But like I said before, that's not even the worst part. The worst part is she constantly bitches and complains about people not wanting to watch her kids. My mother is her biggest target. Admittedly, my mother is kind of a bitch in that she'll project herself as this great mother, and then constantly make up excuses in order to get out of doing anything. She's said many times she'll go out of her way to watch the kids, changing her shift, etc. Then when she's called on it, even on her days off, she usually finds an excuse not to help, and usually its a pretty lame excuse.
The thing is, my sister should already expect this by now. Listening to her complain is like watching someone smash their head against a wall and then comment that it hurts every time. She already knows what the Farking result will be. She needs to stop wasting so much time complaining and actually try to solve her shit instead.
Worst still, all the way back in December she was telling me she had it all figured out, and come February-ish she would never need me to watch them anymore. Now, July, she's telling me something similiar, in that around September or some shit she'll have a way. But I know that's a lie, and that come September the exact same thing will happen.
Also, she's been complaining about being poor basically since she moved out. Now she's complaining while she was "kind of" poor before, now she's as poor as she's ever been. Honestly, I have a hard time giving a Fark though. I've seen no difference in how she acts despite her complaining how poor she is.
And now she wants to get a place together, because things will be easier for her. I can't deny it either; it would be a lot easier for her. She'd save money, and would be able to live in a bigger place. Despite me saying I don't want her to be in a situation where she needs to rely on me, and her reassurance she doesn't want that either, she's already sending me links to places I know she won't be able to afford without me.
To top it all off, I can't think of a single reason to want to live with her, other than it will be good for her. I'll just be paying quite a bit more money for a slightly worse off situation. It wouldn't be "my" place, because I know the kids would take over all the main rooms. Even if I get my own room, or an entire basement, it'd still just be "a room" like I have now. My sister is incredibly messy; despite her claiming the cause is his children, she's always been that way. I can still remember her being so lazy that rather than take her laundry to her room, she'd just change in the laundry room. And while I'm sure she'd deny it, me living there would give her convenient access to a babysitter. I'd also have to deal with all the crap that comes with living with children.
But, I'll end up doing it anyway, cause I'm the oldest, and I know she needs me. Along with having no benefits, being the oldest comes with the responsibility of looking after everyone else, lol.
So yeah, there's my rant. And as arrogant as this sounds, I really wish I knew someone smarter than me in RL to talk to sometimes.
